"This Mama’s Trip" Reviews The Other Mother

Here is an excerpt from the "This Mama's Trip" review of The Other Mother.

"I LOVED this book [The Other Mother]. For me, the best part of this book was the look inside the stay at home mom's house. Since I work full time and always have, I have no idea what it would be like to be a stay at home mom. This book gave me a glimpse into this life."

The Other Mother is Featured in the New Jersey Star-Ledger’s Jersey Blogs

The Moms Blogs discussion of The Other Mother is featured in New Jersey Star-Ledger's Jersey Blogs written by Kelley Heyboer.

A group of Mommy bloggers started an online book club this week-- and they've chosen a book by a New Jersey author and fellow blogger as their first subject.

Gross, the author, lives in North Jersey and has a rather interesting blog herself. Her site -- The Other Mother - for Moms Who Want to Write -- is a blog/online workshop for aspiring writers.

New Novel – The Other Mother – Is Generating Intense Discussion Among Moms

Inspired by the release of the new motherhood novel "The Other Mother," contributors to the Silicon Valley, Chicago, Washington DC Metro, and New York City Moms Blogs are currently engaging in an intense discussion about balancing work and family.

In many of the comments on the Chicago Moms Blog, moms relate their own lives to the main characters in the novel: Thea (the stay-at-home mom) and Amanda (the working mom). Moms are exploring the question of how we allow and trust other people to care for our children.

Jill Asher writes on the Chicago Moms Blog, “I could totally relate to both Thea and Amanda. At some points in the book, I kept yelling (to myself)... just talk to each other! Get your issues out on the table and you will both feel a lot better. At other parts, I wanted to give them each a big hug and tell them that they were doing a great job as a mom.”

Gwendolen Gross, the author of The Other Mother, comments, “I wrote this novel with one narrator who is a stay-at-home mom and the other a working mom to accomplish something I thought non-fiction couldn't. What I wanted was to be able to stand in shoes of both moms, in hopes of illustrating how we judge each other unnecessarily, and understanding, myself, how important it is to respect other people's methods and choices even if they don't match my own.”

The discussion continues and all blog readers are invited to participate on the Chicago Moms Blog.


The four Moms Blogs are the brainchild of Jill Asher and Pamela Miller Hornik, and they have received national media attention for their coverage of parenting issues in the New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, San Jose Mercury News, Los Angeles Times, Chicago Sun Times and on ABC News.

What Moms Are Saying About The New Motherhood Novel: The Other Mother

Mom blogs across the country are writing about how the new motherhood novel - The Other Mother - explores the joys and struggles of motherhood. Mom reviewers describe how this suspenseful novel inspires them to think deeply about their own choices in balancing work and family, as well as their judgments about decisions made by other mothers.

Gwendolen Gross, the author of The Other Mother, shares her thoughts saying, "I wrote this novel with one narrator who is a stay-at-home mom and the other a working mom to accomplish something I thought non-fiction couldn't. What I wanted was to be able to stand in shoes of both moms, in hopes of illustrating how we judge each other unnecessarily, and understanding, myself, how important it is to respect other people's methods and choices even if they don't match my own."

In recent reviews, moms tell how they relate closely to both mothers in the novel. The Mom Blog My Life As It Is writes, "As the story continues we truly get to know both Moms. OMG – I loved them both. I hated them both. I wanted to hug them both. I wanted to shake them both. I wanted to crawl into the pages and bang THEIR heads together. There was so much of ME in both of them." Jill Asher writes on the Chicago Moms Blog, "I could totally relate to both Thea and Amanda. At some points in the book, I kept yelling (to myself)... just talk to each other! Get your issues out on the table and you will both feel a lot better. At other parts, I wanted to give them each a big hug and tell them that they were doing a great job as a mom."

The balanced portrayal of the challenges of motherhood for both stay at home and working moms is noted in many reviews. Super-Mommy Blog says, "This book really touches on some of the deepest issues that come with motherhood, and no matter what side you belong to, you can really get a feel for the other side’s life." According to Work It: A Blog For Working Moms, The Other Mother "displays with pinpoint accuracy the challenges for both stay-at-home moms and working moms - and the delicate balance that all women face on a daily basis." Go-Go Mommy says "The Other Mother clearly illustrates the self-doubt that is a part of parenthood, the firm convictions that we carry with us - be they right or wrong, and the special treat of being able to really see issues from a perspective other than our own."

Mom reviewers are also talking about the deep emotional impact of Ms. Gross’ novel. The Mom Blog Reviews From the Couch says, "Some experiences in the book led me to tears. I cried because it hit too close to home. It is difficult to not have the power, trust, or heart to stick up for one’s choices, and then nearly have a heart-attack of fear and regret when one finally does. I can understand being simultaneously brave and cowardly." Along the same lines, The Mom Gadget Blog writes "the characters are so believable and are sure to leave a lasting impression, long after the final page has been turned. While I can’t tell you how the book ends, I will tell you that it’s the first time I’ve ever had to reach for the box of tissue while reading a book."
Working Moms Against Guilt sums up her thoughts, "What I really like about this book is how the characters experience doubts and emotions that every mother experiences. Though Thea and Amanda fixate on one another, the real conflict lies within themselves. In the end, this book isn't about The Other Mother, it's about being a mother in general." Karianna - Reviews From the Couch also writes "The Other Mother is enjoyable, thought-provoking, and definitely an excellent book club book because not every woman will read it the same way. It is bound to create lots of heavy discussion and introspection."

New Novel -- The Other Mother -- Explores Meaning of Motherhood

Newly released by Crown Books, The Other Mother by Gwendolen Gross is a compelling novel about conflicts between working moms and stay at home moms as well as the constant push and pull of contemporary motherhood. This new novel is a selection of four national book clubs. The Other Mother “paints an electrifyingly complex and explosively gripping portrait of contemporary, have-it-all motherhood” says Booklist. This new novel takes both sides of the mommy wars, asking working moms and stay at home moms to look closely at why they identify with one side or the other. Dame Magazine writes “The Other Mother is a dark look into everything that tears us apart and brings us closest together.”

There is a sharp divide between working moms and stay at home moms according to recent research. A Pew survey finds that 44% of stay at home moms say an increase in working moms is bad for society. In a national iVillage survey, 50% of women said that stay at home moms and working moms have a difficult time relating to one another. A recent poll by Parenting magazine finds that the number one topic that makes moms feel most judgmental is working versus staying at home.

Book reviews of The Other Mother describe how the novel speaks to this tension between stay at home and working moms. Publisher's Weekly says that The Other Mother “documents the front lines of the Mommy Wars, but its real strength lies is exposing the complex inner battlefields motherhood can open up.” National Public Radio calls The Other Mother “a thoughtful, multi-faceted look at what divides and unites mothers.”

Gross’ novel leads mothers to explore their own choices about balancing work and family, the joy of motherhood, and feelings of guilt, resentment, and regret. The Mom Blog 5MinutesForMom writes, “Because of the neutral tone and the way this book addresses the issues that all moms face, this would be a great book club selection.” The Other Mother is a featured selection of the Redbook Book Club, and a featured alternate selection of the Book of the Month Club, the Literary Guild Book Club, and the Doubleday Book Club.

More information about the iVillage poll “What Moms are Thinking Now” and the Parenting Magazine survey “Mom Confessions: Mom vs. Mom.”